If you Knew Me

     I just finished watching the premiere of If you Knew me, a new show on MTV. It was all about something called 'Challenge Day." Challenge day is a one day assembly in highschool, where the students are challenged to come out of thier shells. Cliques separate, and teens come open. Oh boy did it bring me back to highschool. Cliques are in ever school, small or large. If you are a parent of a teeneager or pre teen THIS SHOW IS SOMETHING YOU NEED TO WATCh. I think it would give you and your child a good oppurtunity to be open and honest with each other.
     As you know my kids are still several years away from Junior High & Highschool years ,but as an adult who has two beautiful children it opened my eyes. We need to be advisorys for our children. No matter what age they are. You can't protect them from harm the way you can when they are toddlers, but you  can be in the shadows waiting for them to lean on you. We all want what is best for our kids and even though I am not going through the teens right now I know they are tough. Sorry mom:)
Expectations are going to be hard to set for our kids. My plan is to teach my children that RIGHT NOW and ALWAYS I am here. I plan to teach them right from wrong. I plan to teach them that the world is harsh, and everyone goes through tough times, but they dont have to copy what is seen around them.  Uniqueness is the way to be.
    Some of the students feelings and phrases that were said ,on the show,I could definiatlly relate to.  So be open with your child and show no judgement. I think that as Adults (even if you dont have kids) we can all learn from this as well. Judgment is not for us on earth to decide. Sadly though it comes all to easily. We are all about apperance. Ever heard of the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover." Well I say when it comes to being out in the world "Don't Judge a person by his/her eye's, look at thier heart." The cliche "Beauty is on the inside," is so true and so overlooked. So as you are walking halls in school,becoming an adult out in the world, or raising a family remember that everyone around you has eyes too. Be the strong, fearless person that leads by example.
Talk to someone. Listen to someone. Learn about them.
Here is link to show if your curious http://www.mtv.com/shows/if_you_really_knew_me/series.jhtml

KATE PLUS 8....KATE IS JUST A MOM

       Last Night was the premier of KATE PLUS 8.  It was kind of a bittersweet situation because I didnt get to cuddle with my son and watch. {not the first time anyways} We use to love watching the new shows until the whole tabloid stuff came about of course. At first I decided to keep letting Zackary {4} at the time keep watching. Until one night he said "Why is there mommy always leaving." That night I decided he couldnt watch it anymore. I didn't want him worring that I was going to pack up and leave. I was disappointed with TLC for showing all the negative. I felt like the world was already full of negativity and I didnt need it in this family show. However I did realize that this show wasn't a sitcom. It was the true lives of this family. I then felt sorry for this woman, her children and even her husband. However I still couldnt place myself in this moms shoes.
    Last night changed my mind.  I watched and I have to say that I could certainly relate to this woman. She is just a hardworking mother. I believe I could be friends with this woman. I think people are to quick to read the tabloids and to judge what they read. Remember that tabloids get paid to write. Good Bad or Ugly. They are going to write about anything and everything true, false or indifferent. So screen the show and then watch with your little ones. Remember Kate is just a hard working mommy. Like you and I, she has real fears, and dreams. If you prick her she will bleed.